Are you carrying around an unspoken question or assumption about something?
Did someone do something or behave in a way that stumped (and possibly hurt) you, but you haven't had the guts to ask them about it?
We'd rather suffer under our own assumptions, pretend everything is fine, and take things personally rather than just having the chutzpha to be real, raw, and vulnerable with another person. I too am guilty of wimping out in relationships, and just mustered up the guts to rescue myself from playing it safe.
There is a friend in my life whose company I enjoy, and who I see frequently and get along with great with. But I had been secretly carrying around some hurt and misunderstanding about why he did something over a year ago! I acted as if everything was great between us. And honestly, I had convinced myself I'd put the situation behind me, because I did the closure and forgiveness work for both him and myself. I was able to see the spiritual lesson in it and move on.